Let’s make one thing clear; life is rough, we’re all born with some advantages and disadvantages, some more than others, and on top of that life itself hands us plenty of blows as we grow up and god only knows what horrors awaits us after that.
It’s no wonder then that many people reach their 30’s and 40’s (and so on) with resentment and bitterness over dreams that never came true and for settling for a life far below that of their plans.
To live is to fail. But we can learn and grow, change and adapt. We can never avoid failure, but we can increase our wins. In fact, if you’re reading this, you already know this and have decided to take action to learn and do better. You’re awesome.
But to understand what we’re doing and why we’re doing it, we need to lay out the reality of the situation men find themselves in.
Courting women is hard. It’s designed to be hard by nature, because nature doesn’t want you to procreate unless you’re worthy. And so evolution, in particular our branch in the evolutionary tree, have come up with the concept of gendered courtship as an extra mechanism for filtering out those who aren’t worthy. It might sound cruel, but given that nature’s first trick to filter out the unworthy is to kill them, casting unworthy males into unwanted celibacy is quite the step up.
“WE DON’T TALK ANYMORE!”
“That’s ridiculous!” I (John) said. “We talk all the time!”
“But not about what we need to talk about. What’s important to me. What’s important for us!”
“Then drive with me to my softball game! If it’s that big a deal, you can talk to me on the way to the game about anything you want!”
You might have asked yourself this question a few times in your life. And even if you might have found a possible answer to that question, it just leaves you with even more questions.
Is a man’s life all about women? If it were, then why are so many single men monks, priests, and voluntary celibates some of the happiest men in the world? And why are so many married men some of the most miserable men in the world?
What is daygame? Its a bright, sunny day. You’re in shorts, a white t-shirt and you’re wearing sunglasses and a million dollar smile. Today is a good day.
You’re walking around town, running errands and what not, and suddenly that feeling in your stomach that you know too well comes to life and in an instant you know exactly what’s going on.
Welcome to your own 10 Great Dates. For years we’ve been helping couples build their relationship through the habit of dating. Now we’re adding a new dimension to our Great Dates. We want to introduce you to 10 Great Dates especially crafted to help you connect faith, love, and marriage in ways that result in a deeper spiritual connection—all in the fun, guilt-free, safe format of Great Dates.
Alpha males. From James Bond to Tyler Durden (Brad Pitt), from Scarface to Tony Stark, from Frank Underwood to Hank Moody, from Vladimir Putin to Theodore Roosevelt, from Napoleon Bonaparte to Julius Caesar. Alpha males have always captured the admiration — even jealousy — of men, and the love and lust of women.
A girl once asked me if I had ever been rejected. I don’t remember who or where. We were around seventeen, this much I remember. I looked her in the eye and proudly told her I had never been rejected, and it was the truth. What I didn’t tell her was that I’d barely been kissed. If the girl asked me the same question today, more than twenty years later, I would tell her I’ve been rejected more times than a man could possibly remember. With a gun to my head I’d say probably between two and three thousand times, maybe more.
After a nasty breakup, Tally Gladstone has no interest in anything serious. But she’s dipped her wary toe back into dating with a few blind dates—all bad…or worse. The only good thing to come out of it is a sizable following on social media. Her latest date is doomed from the get-go—he isn’t even straight. But at least he knows someone who meets her every very exacting wish!
Flirting is essential to getting the girl.
If you can’t flirt or don’t flirt, she’ll see you as a “just friends” guy. There will zero sexual tension and zero attraction—not what you want.
Tears fill my eyes as I watch Toby playing by himself on the floor with the new train set that I’ve just bought for him to try and cheer him up. I know that he’s missing his mom today and I feel really bad for it. Of course, he’s going to miss his mother, any boy no matter what age needs that maternal figure, but unfortunately there’s nothing I can do about it. Eight months ago, just before Toby’s sixth birthday, I caught Liz in bed with my best friend and business partner at the time, Pete, and our whole world imploded.